I can relate to your question 100%. Its relatively hard to balance your past and your present feelings when it come to an ex-lover especially is your love for that person was strong. Honestly, it’s all about being able to fully read the nature of your present relationship with that person and base it off how and why your intimate relatinship ended. Is he using you? Are you still around because he really wants to be your friend? With those questions, you have to also ask yourself why YOU are still apart of his life? Is it because you secretly hope you can still be back together? And is he feeding into that emotion? In situations like these you have to be honest with yourself. Because most times in these situations you always end up being hurt. Like me. For a while I purposely stayed in contact with my Ex because I secretly, deep down, hoped he would return to me and things would go right. And he fed into that. You have to do some soul searching and see if being around your Ex is really a healthy thing for you. But you have to be prepared for that answer. You may lose him for good. And you may cry for a while. But what’s more important, your mental health and soon, emotional healing? Or keeping them around which may just continue to cause you mental and emotional anguish? Note: Having good friends and family around will make your grieving process a lot easier.
Hope I was able to help. And remember, Life’s Sweet When You Add A Little Splender.
