“He can only hold her for so long
The lights are on but no one’s home
She’s so vacant, Her soul is taken
He thinks, “what she running from?”Now how can he have her heart
When it got stole
So he tries to pacify her
‘Cause what’s inside her never dies”
-Amy Winehouse ‘He Can Only Hold Her’
Does this touch home to you? It did for me once. It’s the story of the “rebound relationship”. The relationship that inevitably ensues to try and mask the pain you are truly feeling by being around the affection of another. Anybody who has ever had their heartbroken has dabbled in the rebound relationship. And although this is somewhat of a coping mechanism it is very unfair to both the Reboundee and YOU the Rebounder.
Any emotion that isn’t dealt with properly always manifests in some kind of way, whether it’s drugs or even illness. The best way to deal with a broken heart is to comfront it head on. Cry if you wanna cry! Fight (punching bags not people) if you need to fight! Scream if you need to scream. It doesn’t make you weak, it doesn’t make you a punk. It makes you HUMAN. Why hide it and subject someone else to the same heartache you feel/felt. Because sooner or later they’re gonna know you’re never gonna fully commit body, mind and soul to them. All you’re doing is repeating the cycle of heartache while the original heartbreaker is out living his or her life, happily…
“Seems like all I do is think about our pseudo-romance
While you’re somwhere burnin’ diesal in the streets havin’ laughs”
-Mariah Carey ‘Thanx 4 Nothin’
In life things happen. The Good, The Bad, The Ugly. We are all dealt bad hands from time to time. But it doesn’t matter how bad your hand is. It’s about how well you play the cards you’ve been dealt. Love is a battle of the heart and in some (well A LOT of) aspects is one of the mind. You have to make wise decisions. Know when it’s just not gonna work. And know when you’re about to become the one that’s about to break someone’s heart the way someone just did yours. Do you really want to put someone through the same pain you’ve gone through?
Lesson Of The Day: Rebound Relationships?… A No No (Simply Put). Don’t pass on the heartache. And remember, Life’s Sweet When You Add A Littler Splender!!!
“Even if she’s content in his warmth
She is plagued with urgency
So urgent kisses, the man she misses
The man that he longs to beNow how can he have her heart
When it got stole
So he tries to pacify her
‘Cause what’s inside her never dies”
-Amy Winehouse ‘He Can Only Hold Her’
